Student Assistance Program
This year Caledonia is excited to offer a Student Assistance Program (SAP) with Pine Rest. An SAP provides all students in our district and anyone in their household with access to 3 free counseling sessions per issue with a licensed mental health professional. Families wishing to access these benefits just need to call 800-442-0809, press 1, and say "I have an SAP with Caledonia Community Schools."
Personal Advantage Library: pinerest.org/PAL
Commonly Asked Questions:
Does Caledonia receive information on who accesses services?
No, Caledonia only receives information on the number of individuals accessing services. NO identifying information is shared between entities.
Does this only apply to students?
Students and ALL members of their household can access 3 free counseling sessions per person.
What if a different problem comes up?
You are limited to 3 counseling sessions per episode of care. If a new concern requires counseling support, you will receive 3 more counseling sessions for the new episode of care.
What if I want to continue in counseling after my 3 free sessions?
At intake, Pine Rest will ask about your insurance information so you can be matched with a professional who can take your insurance if you wish to continue after your 3 free sessions are over. If you cannot afford to continue care, Pine Rest has a financial assistance program that may help.
What other benefits are available?
- The SAP program provides all our families with access to Elder Care Consultation, Legal Consultation, and Financial Consultation. Please refer to this flyer for details.
3/23 - Get Outdoors
Spring is officially here and a break from school is just around the corner. The warmer weather provides a wonderful opportunity to take care of our mental health by spending more time outdoors. In fact, according to NAMI, "Access to nature has also been found to improve sleep and reduce stress, increase happiness and reduce negative emotions, promote positive social interactions and even help generate a sense of meaning to life."
For more information, check out this video from Stanford researchers.
Your time outdoors doesn't need to be complicated. A simple walk outdoors can have benefits that last hours after you finish. A short amount of time invested can leave you feeling happier, more relaxed, and optimistic for the rest of the day. What's even better is that studies have demonstrated that those individuals at greater risk of developing mental health issues, including anxiety and depression, benefit more from getting outdoors than others.
3/9 - Give Me a Call
Why a phone call may be better than a text...
While too much time spent online can take a toll on our mental health, researchers have discovered that your phone also has the power to calm you down when you're feeling anxious and overwhelmed. A biological anthropologist at the University of Wisconsin-Madison led a study that found hearing someone's voice over the phone has the ability to lower the listener's stress levels and boost oxytocin (also called the cuddle hormone). Getting a text, even a very sweet text, however, doesn't have the same effect. The moral of the story is that texting may often be a more efficient way to communicate, but there is something special about hearing someone's voice. The next time you feel stressed, lonely, anxious, or down, try giving someone you care about a call and see what happens.
To dive deeper into this idea, check out this short video on the power of face-to-face conversation by Sherry Turkle, the director of the MIT Initiative on Technology and Self and the author of "Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other"
Check out March's Action for Happiness Calendar for more ideas on how to stay well this month!
2/23 - It's OK To Be Sad
Helen Russell is a bestselling author and happiness researcher. She also writes for magazines and newspapers worldwide, including The Sunday Times, Wall Street Journal, and National Geographic. While she is known for her work on happiness, her newest book is titled "How to Be Sad: Everything I've Learned About Getting Happier, by Being Sad, Better." In it, she shares her experience with grief and sadness as well as science-backed strategies for coping with sad feelings.
She makes it clear that mental strength isn’t measured by how happy you feel. Instead, living your best life involves allowing yourself to embrace sad feelings sometimes, too. According to Russell, "Life may be hard, but it will have meaning. And it’s this that should be the goal: a life experiencing our entire emotional spectrum. Sadness is going to happen, so we may as well know how to 'do it' right."
These are Helen Russell’s tips for coping with sadness:
- When you’re feeling sad, listen to music, read a book – whatever feels like a companion to you. When I’m feeling down, reading is always good, because it takes my brain somewhere else.
- Get out and get active. Regular exercise can help to manage mood, releasing endorphins – hormones that can make you feel happier – and exposing you to vitamin D.
- People are not always encouraged to express their anger. I found journaling can really help. Just put it out there, express yourself. It’s a great way to bear witness to our feelings.
- Lower your expectations. Take time. Be patient.
2/8 - Exist in the Moment
How often do you sit down and just exist in the moment? How many times in a day do you stop and stretch or take a few deep breaths? Taking those moments to yourself have more benefits than you might think. Practicing mindfulness can increase your mental focus and physical energy. It’s an effective way to cope with stress and feelings of anxiety, as it helps you to focus on the present moment. Another lesser-known benefit and a perhaps more surprising one, mindfulness has been shown to improve our physical health in several different ways, including managing chronic pain, encouraging healthy eating habits, improving sleep quality, and even heightening immune function.
Try this simple mindfulness exercise: Count your breath or your thoughts
Start from 1 and you start counting your breaths. This works the same as counting sheep. When you notice that your attention has disappeared, just start over at 1.
You can do the same with your thoughts. While you just sit in silence, count every thought that comes to mind. How many thoughts have you counted in 10 minutes? Consider it a challenge to count fewer and fewer.
1/26 - Empathy
Webster's dictionary defines empathy as, "the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner."
Empathy may come more naturally to some than others, but it is a skill that we can all develop. Did you know that practicing empathy can increase your own well-being? In fact, it has been shown to build stronger relationships and a more compassionate society. This article published in Psychological Science aims to enhance our understanding and appreciation for the art of empathy.
The University of Toronto’s, Gregory Depow, and his colleagues recruited 247 people and, several times a day for a week, pinged them to ask if they’d recently had an empathy opportunity (someone expressing emotion in their presence), received or offered empathy, or performed a kind, helpful act. They also recorded whether they resonated with the person’s feelings, took their perspective, or felt compassion for them (all elements of empathy). Then, they reported on their well-being.
The results showed that people had about nine opportunities to empathize (and six opportunities to receive empathy) daily, and they empathized or received empathy about 88% of the time. They also tended to empathize more with close others than with strangers and to empathize more with positive than negative emotions—a surprise to Depow, as researchers often study empathy as a response to suffering.
More importantly, people who saw more empathy opportunities and empathized more were happier and had greater well-being. They also helped out others more after feeling empathy, even if they’d empathized with positive rather than negative feelings.
This suggests that our daily lives are filled with opportunities to practice empathy, including opportunities to share in other people’s happy moments, if we just look out for them.
Check out this short video from Brene Brown on the difference between sympathy and empathy.
Wellness Wednesdays . Fall 2021
12/15 - Seasonal Affective Disorder
With all of the wonderful things this season can bring, there can also be challenges. In fact, some kids show signs of depression only during certain seasons, which may be related to seasonal affective disorder. Look for big changes from their normal mood and behavior, like refusing to do things they usually love. A bad day here and there isn’t a problem. But a pattern of change that lasts for weeks might be. You can check with a doctor or therapist if you think your child might need help. Read the full article from CHILD MIND INSTITUTE here: Seasonal Affective Disorder by Hannah Sheldon-Dean
This time of year can also enhance the challenges that families face. There are many wonderful resources in West Michigan, but it can be difficult to know where to start. We have compiled a list of organizations in and around Caledonia that provide assistance with some of the most requested needs on the Caledonia Resource site here. Please feel free to share it with people you know who may benefit from the information.
12/01 - Action for Happiness
Action for Happiness has designated this month as "Do Good December." This month, we're encouraging you to carry out small acts of kindness. This has been another difficult year of uncertainty and ups and downs for many of us. Kindness is contagious, and helping others has been proven to make us feel better too! In fact, one team of sociologists tracked 2000 people over a five-year period and found that Americans who described themselves as “very happy” volunteered at least 5.8 hours per month. This heightened sense of well-being might be the byproduct of being more physically active as a result of volunteering, or because it makes us more socially active. Researchers also think that giving back might give individuals a mental boost by providing them with a neurochemical sense of reward.
Consider trying some of the action steps on the calendar here as a family.
11/17 - Feelings Are Not Facts
Someone wise once said, "Feelings are not facts." What they mean is that feelings and moods are transient. They come and go. Sometimes negative ones hang around longer than we want them to and positive ones do not last long enough. All-in-all I assure you that no matter the emotion/mood/feeling it does not last forever (it might feel like that but the truth is that it will not).
When you find yourself having a strong feeling, reflection can help you to pay attention to what it might be telling you. As psychologist Susan David from Harvard University explains, emotions can give you tremendous data. However, she adds, emotions are data, not directions. For example, the feeling of loneliness may tell you that you need more connection with people—but there are lots of ways to seek out social connection, some healthy and some destructive.
Here are some questions that can help you to self-reflect:
- How am I feeling right now about this? Why?
- What do I know?
- What do I need to know?
- Who can help?
- What do I want the outcome of the situation to be?
When you reflect, you can evaluate your reactions and take small, deliberate steps to move in the right direction. For example, you might ask yourself: If I want to take better care of my physical wellness, what’s one step I can take, right now? If I am overwhelmed by demands, what small changes can I make to prioritize my time? If I am in conflict with a friend, what might help open up lines of communication?
There’s no magic formula. You all will have moments of success and moments that we feel like failures. That’s why taking time to reflect, recalibrate, and respond is critical to developing practical wisdom.
11/02 - Try Something New
10/20 - Bullying
October is National Bullying Prevention Month, a time to focus and raise awareness on bullying. During this month, many groups across the country will release new resources, campaigns, and efforts aimed at bringing awareness to the issue of bullying. This is a great opportunity for us to put ourselves in someone else's shoes and consider how we might help our school be a positive place for all students to be.
What is Bullying?
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose. Bullying can also take place through technology, known as cyberbullying. Examples of cyberbullying include mean text messages or emails, rumors sent by email or posted on social networking sites, and embarrassing pictures, videos, websites, or fake profiles.
What can one person do?
Peer bystanders provide an audience 85% of instances of bullying, but many of us might feel like our one voice can't make a difference to a person who is struggling. Check out this video from director and choreographer Kenny Ortega as he reflects on the solo voices that have impacted his life.
Your actions can have a direct effect on the way someone thinks, acts, and feels. If you or someone you know is being treated badly, please reach out to a trusted adult. Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” –Helen Keller
10/06 - Listening
October 10th marks World Mental Health Day, which brings a wonderful opportunity to remind us all that we possess one of the most effective tools to aid someone experiencing a mental health crisis.
Listening is critical in many different scenarios, but for situations when someone is experiencing symptoms of a mental health crisis, there is a specific kind of listening that can be most effective: empathetic listening. For a person experiencing a mental health problem, having an empathetic listener can be calming and reassuring – even healing.
Empathy, unlike sympathy, does not mean we agree with the other person or see things from the same point of view. Instead, it requires taking a moment to step outside of our normal patterns of thinking and feeling to imagine what it feels like to be the person in front of us.
“Most people experiencing distressing emotions and thoughts want an empathetic listener before being offered helpful options and resources.”
Empathetic listening isn't just important for those in crisis. In fact, research indicates that empathy is a career readiness skill. According to a 2019 Workplace Empathy Study, 90 percent of all employees believe empathy is important in the workplace, and eight in ten are willing to leave an employer who isn’t empathetic.
This short clip from Inside Out illustrates empathetic listening perfectly and reminds us that we don't need to have all the answers to be able to help.
09/22 - Managing Expectations
As we continue in Self-Care September, we examine how to manage the expectations we put on ourselves and the ones we feel from others. Research suggests that expectations (whether that is pressure from your family, personal pressure you apply to yourself or even expectations your teacher has of you) can directly impact upon your performance. Expectations can be good and help to motivate us to achieve what we are capable of, but they can also be crushing and lead to feelings of overwhelm.
Managing your personal expectations is extremely important for your mental health. This is a short video about a U of M athlete who uses mindful self-compassion in the face of challenges. Here are some suggestions that might help you:
- Challenge your assumptions about yourself and others. You don’t know what you don’t know. If you find yourself ‘assuming’ something, do some research to challenge or verify your belief.
- Be encouraging to yourself and others. Pressure can be positive when it’s encouraging yourself or another person to do something good, e.g. “I’m going to learn a second language in my spare time, to increase my opportunities to study/work abroad.” The opposite of this is negative pressure, where you are using put-downs, or are focusing on avoiding a negative outcome, e.g. “Stop being such an idiot and get this assignment done so you don’t fail.”
- Separate behavior from identity. If you make a mistake, it doesn't mean you are a failure. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
- Keep things in context. Often our expectations don’t account for context. If your barista was rude to you, you might assume they are a rude person. However, adding the context that they had just had a big pay cut, three customers had just been abusive towards them and they were really stressed because their dog was unwell might change how you viewed the situation. Rather than jumping to conclusions or taking things personally, it can be helpful to try and remain neutral and curious, by asking, “What else might explain this behavior?”
09/01 - Action for Happiness
Welcome to the 21/22 school year. It has been so exciting to welcome students back into our buildings and we look forward to an incredible year. This month, our wellness focus is on Personal Responsibility and Self-Awareness. Research would indicate that although our genes influence about 50% of the variation in our personal happiness, our circumstances (like income and environment) affect only about 10%. As much as 40% is accounted for by our daily activities and the conscious choices we make. So the good news is that our actions really can make a difference.
This "Action for Happiness" calendar provides daily suggestions for small steps we can all take to live happier and healthier lives. This month we're encouraging everyone to be kinder to themselves (as well as others), especially when things go wrong. Self-care increases our resilience and helps us get more out of life. It also helps us accept others as they are too. One suggestion for practicing self-care is to "talk to yourself like someone you love." So often we are much harder on ourselves than we are on others so take some time this week to notice your inner voice and challenge yourself to be more kind. For more information, read this article from Mayo Clinic.